What do you do to lose your surface anxieties and find greater focus?

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Breathe. Big, deep, full breaths.  

Answered almost 3 years ago rreilly11 2 1 from unknown


I remember that I am exactly where I am supposed to be, at exactly the right time. I take a deep breath, as rreilly11 said… and I ask myself why I’m feeling anxious. What is the cause or belief that is making me feel that way?

For me, I often feel anxious about the work I do… like when I have to give a speech to a group of strangers. I get really anxious… I think, "I'm not good enough. Who am I to talk to these people about this? Why am I here!?"

For a while, I would call a friend and tell them, “I’m about to speak to a room of people and I’m terrified. What if I am horrible? And don’t make sense? And forget what I’m supposed to say? And they don’t laugh at my jokes?” I actually ask a couple of friends to stay near their phones when I know I might need them…

On the other end of the line, I hear, “You were born to do this. You got this. You are our voice. Be our voice. Give them hope. Speak from your heart.” And I tell the universe (some pray), “I don’t need to be perfect. I don’t need to be great. I just want to get through to one person. If I can make a difference to one person, then I will have succeeded today.”

I’ve gotten to the point now where I can hear my friends in my mind and don’t always need to call. I liken this to Olympians. Every incredible athlete has a coach that helps them and pumps them up just before they go out to compete.

Anxieties can be good. Let them be. When they are destructive, acknowledge them, rationalize them and then let them go.

If you haven’t heard of Byron Katie, check her out. She has an amazing method called The 4 Questions.

First – Think the thought that is making you anxious.
Then ask yourself these four questions:
1. Is it true?
2. Can you absolutely know it's true?
3. How do you react? What happens when you believe that thought?
4. Who would you be without the thought?

Sometimes it helps to do this with someone especially when you're first starting. At least, it did for me because I initially tried to weasel my way out of being honest with myself. : )

Hope this helps! 

Answered almost 3 years ago genevieve chase 32 from United States