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Depressed being at home spending time unproductively

I have involved in big project and that is held up due to funding problems, am just sitting home waiting for something to happen, depressed being at home spending time un productively and afraid of taking initiative to get into some other activity or job, losing confidence day by day, if I involve in some activity may be I will be cheerful as earlier but don't know how and what to do
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At Echoing Green, we recognize the importance of supporting the emotional well being of our Fellows, by enlisting two chaplains to provide them support. You can read more about them here: http://www.echoinggreen.org/blog/obliged. Jasmine, one of our chaplains, offered some advice:

“Hi there! I'm one of the chaplains who works with Echoing Green Fellows. First, it's great that you've recognized this pattern. That's the first step in changing it and hopefully starting to feel some relief from the depression you're experiencing. Second, I can see your dilemma. You're in a holding pattern and it sounds like someone else is making the calls about what happens next andwhen it happens. Dynamics like this can lead easily to frustration, inertiaand, above all, a feeling that you're not quite in control of something really important—how you spend your time, energy and passions. It's like waiting for an unreliable friend who said they might call to actually call; as long as you keep waiting and saying no to other plans, you're in an uncomfortable holding pattern. The moment you start to make your own choices, the dynamic changes and - hopefully - you'll start feeling better, bit by bit.

If you are feeling a financial strain because of this situation, that lends an urgency to it. It may call for you to make a hard decision at some point: leaving this project behind because it's not tenable to keep waiting and instead prioritizing finding work that is more consistent and offers more stability.

If, however, you're in a financial position to stay in this holding pattern for awhile longer, what about using this time to dive into some projects or interests that truly excite and engage you—something  you've always wanted to do (volunteering, learning a new language, training for a marathon . . . whatever it might be). As long as these are short-term projects rather than intensive ones (like climbing Mt. Everest), you can put them on pause if your work project resumes.


Big picture: think about ways
even very small waysthat you can have more control in this situation and that you can spend time doing things that make you feel more alive, and above all, more like you.”

We hope that helps!

Answered over 2 years ago echoing green 933 5 from United States

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Been there.  I definitely feel for you.  And good for you for being honest, and for seeking advice.

I have often likened my experience (as a social entrepreneur in Africa, see www.aidchild.org) to the thrilling crossing of a river. While I knew that I wanted to reach the other side, I was not exactly sure of how to get there. Often, the path of stepping stones cannot be seen from one bank to the other. But all I needed was to identify that first stone. That first act. That first step. Only once I was standing on the strength of the first, could I identify the second, and then the third, fourth, fifth—until eventually, gloriously—I found myself on the other side of a massive, powerful river of work. 

In innovation, it is often impossible to plan the whole journey. 

Sometimes we have to tell ourselves, "Just do it!"  A leader must embrace vision, identify one (and sometimes only one) stepping stone, and then GO. Good on ya. (More thoughts at nathanieldunigan.com.)
Answered over 2 years ago nathaniel dunigan 2 from United States

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I have found that by surrounding myself with like-minded individuals (i.e. go-getters, entrepreneurs, idealists, and changemakers) helps address the “ups” and “downs” that comes with creating something of with no original structure.  These individuals will help remind you of your goal and emotionally endorse your purpose and idea while providing the necessary positive feedback that you need to validate that you are doing the right thing.  Always keep in touch with this community though. Be willing to identify their needs, create value and reciprocate the good deed for them as well.

Answered over 2 years ago viarenuble 18 from United States

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I have been where you are, and the solution that worked for me was to find a place to volunteer. I have volunteered online at a distance, or in person, and for a wide variety of organizations. The volunteering helps to lift your spirits, and keep your brain active while you are in downtime. Sometimes I have volunteered to help clients of an organization sew for an hour a week, or very technical grant writing volunteering that took up most of my free time. If you start slow, and build up to something more complicated, you may regain your confidence and happiness slowly, while keeping your resume active, make new connections with other people, and find meaning in your life again.

Answered over 2 years ago elizabeth casswell 2 from United States

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